| "Hind" - the daughter of Abu
Ummayah and Atekeh, known as Umm-e-Salama was the wife of the
Messenger of Allah (SAW) after Khadija (SA), who had
distinguished and worthy qualities. Her family had such special
greatness and nobility that her father, Abu Ummayah, was called "Zad-ar-Rakeb"
which means the "owner of gifts and generosity towards his
companions and fellow travelers". Umm-e-Salama was one of the
first believers who accepted Islam and migrated to Abyssinia and
also to Medina for protecting the divine ideals. The Verse of
Purification was revealed to the Prophet (SAW) in her house. She was
famous among her relatives and friends for her kindness, affection,
and loyalty. The scholars have called her the great, the learned,
and the visionary lady who had helped in different situations to
solve various problems.
Umm-e-Salama's first husband was her cousin, Abu Salamah ibn
Abdul-Asad, who was obliged to migrate to Abyssinia because of the
extreme oppression of the polytheists. And it was there that their
daughter, Salamah was born and after her, their son, Omar was born.
Omar was wise and reflective. Since he was brought up under his
mother's supervision, even in his youth he participated in all the
battles along with Imam Ali (AS) and before that he had been the
Governor of Bahrain.
Abu Salamah participated in the Battle of Ohud and was badly
injured and finally passed away. This learned Muslim had clear
sighted vision that led to the uprooting of wrong traditions and
tribal customs. Once when Umm-e-Salamah wanted she and her husband
to make a pact that upon the death of either of them the other would
not remarry.
Her husband said never shall we make such a pact. He then
stretched his hands towards the heavens and said: "O Allah! Please
grant Umm-e-Salama a better husband after my death!"
After Abu Salamah's death, the Messenger of Allah (SAW) went to
their house for offering his condolences to her and for soothing her
pain and sorrow. He said: "O Allah! Please soothe her grief,
compensate her suffering, and grant her a better substitute than her
late husband. Umm-e-Salama was so distinguished in qualities of
beauty, and the perfection of morals and because of that so many
well-known personalities who were socially famous and wealthy asked
to marry her. One can refer to Abu Bakr and Omar among them. But she
accepted to marry the Prophet (SAW) with a little dowry since she
was a person of insight, reflective, and also learned. She was able
to find an eminent place in the Prophet's (SAW) heart after
Khadija (SA).
Umm-e-Salama was a pious and learned woman who possessed
eloquence and rhetoric. She owned the elixir of devotion and
affection of the Prophet's (SAW) house in a way that she was ready
to do anything to make the Prophet's (SAW) heart happy and remove
his sorrows and grieves. She always sympathized with her dear
husband. Therefore, she accompanied him in the Battle of the Ditch,
the Battle of the Conquest of Mecca, the Siege of Taif, the Battle
of Hawazen, Saghif and then the Farewell Pilgrimage. She was
literate during the 'Age of Ignorance' of Arabia when women were
looked down upon.
In the Hudaybiah Truce when the Prophet (SAW) commanded the
Muslims to shave their heads, to make sacrifices, and to return from
Mecca to Medina according to the settlement, most of them did not
obey. When Umm-e-Salama saw the Prophet's (SAW) grief, she offered a
wise suggestion and said:
"O Messenger of Allah! It is too hard for them to accept the
settlement since they desired victory. You should stand up and go
out without uttering a word, then sacrifice and shave your own head,
and then they'll obey!"
Afterwards all the Muslims stood up and obeyed the Messenger of
Allah's command.
Once she revealed her hidden thoughts to the Prophet (SAW) and
said:
"O Messenger of Allah! Men struggle and participate in the battles,
but women don't, and they cannot be martyred. It is a great blessing
that we are losing.
The Prophet (SAW) explained to her the other substitute for women
and said: "The woman's struggle is in her relations to her husband."
And afterwards Angel Gabriel sent down the following words of
Allah:
"And don't covet that by which Allah has made some of you excel
others; men shall have the benefit of what they earn and women shall
have the benefit of what they earn; and ask Allah of His grace;
surely Allah knows all things." (An-Nisa: 32)
And then the follow verse was sent down.
"Surely the men who submit and the women who submit, and the
believing men and the believing women, and the obeying men and the
obeying women, and the truthful men and the truthful women, and the
patient men and the patient women, and the humble men and the humble
women, and the alms giving men and the fasting women, and the men
who guard their private parts and the women who guard, and the men
who remember Allah much and the women who remember Allah - has
prepared for them forgiveness and a mighty reward." (Al-Ahzab: 35)
Umm-e-Salama: Her love and eagerness towards the Holy Prophet
(SAW)
By accepting Islam, Umm-e-Salama soothed her long thirst by
drinking from the pure and rich fountain of leaning. She struggled
towards attaining eminent morals with the passing of each day and
added to her knowledge and faith in the presence of her husband. She
saw emotions, knowledge, and faith as valuable keys for obtaining
cognition and wisdom, and because of her experience and clear
thought and she was able to obey the Messenger of Allah (SAW) and
his heavenly lessons by possessing those qualities.
After her marriage with the Prophet (SAW) which made her superior
to the rest of his wives was her continuous attempt to obtain his
satisfaction. She would like whatever the Prophet (SAW) liked, and
would avoid all the people and the objects, which he hated. Thus,
she would always talk about the merits of Khadija (SA), would
respect Imam Ali (AS), would show special affection towards
Fatima (SA) and would cook the favorite foods of the Prophet (SAW).
And that was the reason that one could feel the Prophet (SAW), had a
special place for Umm-e-Salama in his heart.
That great lady was so eager to the Messenger of Allah's (SAW)
words that she would leave all of her work and tasks half-done to
use opportunities to listen to his great words. That was the kind of
cognition and eagerness that put Umm-e-Salama among the reliable and
truthful narrators. Some said that she narrated 378 Prophetic
traditions and still some others believed that she had narrated 518,
and all of them were heard from the Messenger of Allah (SAW) and
from the members of the Prophet's House (AS).
Umm-e-Salama's competence - which can serve as an example - made
all the five Holy Ones (AS) and the Imams trust in her. Thus, they
would deposit their possessions with her and would even tell her
their secrets. Once the Holy Prophet (SAW) informed her about events
of Karbala and the martyrdom of his own dear grandson, Imam Hussain
(AS), in advance. He entrusted some soil of Karbala in a glass to
her and said: "Whenever you see that the soil of the glass changes
to blood know that my grandson, Hussain (AS), has been martyred."
On the 10th day of Muharram, 61 AD, Umm-e-Salama was sleeping in
Medina in the afternoon. In her dreams she saw the Prophet (SAW)
while he was filled with sorrow and his clothes were dusty. He said:
"I'm coming from Karbala and the burial of the martyrs." Suddenly
she woke up and looked at the glass, and she found that the soil had
changed to blood. It was then that she knew that Imam Hussain (AS)
was martyred. She started to mourn and cry. Others knew not about
the event and Umm-e-Salama revealed the event. This event is famous
as the "Gharoureh Tradition" in the narrations.
Umm-e-Salama: Love of Imam Ali (AS) and Lady Fatima (SA)
When Fatima bint Asad (mother of Imam Ali [AS]) passed away, the
Messenger of Allah (SAW) chose Umm-e-Salama as the guardian of
Fatima (SA). Once this modest and concerned lady said: "I found
Fatima (SA) pouter than myself". And also she herself said:
"Fatima (SA) is the only person who is most like the Messenger of
Allah (SAW)."
When Umm-e Ayman asked for fixing the date of the marriage of
Fatima (SA), the Prophet (SAW) asked: "Who is here?"
Umm-e- Salama replied: "I'm here and this one is Zainab and those
are such and such."
The Prophet (SAW) said: "Prepare a room for my daughter and my
cousin in my own house!"
Umm-e-Salama asked: 'Which room do you command?"
The Prophet (SAW) answered: "In your own chamber." Then he asked
his companions to go and get ready. This kind lady says: "I asked
Fatima (SA) if she had reserved some perfume for herself." She
answered:
"Yes". And she brought a glass and poured some of it in my hands.
It smelled very sweet and fragrant. I had never smelled it before. I
asked where it had come from. She answered that it was a fragrance
from Gabriel's wings.
The night of her nuptial ceremony, the Prophet (SAW) asked for
all the bowls and the dishes. He filled all and sent them to his
wives houses. Then he asked for another bowl and put some food in
it, and then he said: "This food is for Fatima and her husband."
When the sun set, he asked Umm-e-Salama to bring Lady Fatima (SA).
She said: "I went to Fatima (SA) while her dress was sweeping the
ground as she walked and took her hands in mine." Sweat was running
down her face because of modesty. When she reached the Prophet
(SAW), she slipped because of embarrassment. The Prophet (SAW) said:
"May Allah save you from all the mundane and other worldly slips!"
When she was in front of the Prophet (SAW), he put aside the veil
from Fatima's (SA) face so that Ali (AS) could see his wife's face."
Days and weeks after the marriage, Umm-e-Salama was still like a
kind and compassionate mother to Lady Fatima (SA) and it was an
honor for her to be at the service of Fatima's (SA) children when
Imam Hassan (AS) and Imam Hussain (AS) were born. The reliance of
the Prophet (SAW), Fatima (SA) and Imam Ali (AS) on Umm-e-Salama
which could be easily seen in their words as well as their behavior
can also be seen in the morals and words of Imam Hassan (AS) and
Imam Hussain (AS). This shows the success and prosperity of this
great lady who was always trustworthy for all the five Holy Ones.
Once the Prophet (SAW) called Umm-e-Salama and entrusted her with
the skin of a sheep on which was written many knowledgeable things.
He said:
"Anyone who asks for this after me, he is Imam and the leader
after me."
Finally Umm-e-Salama, this distinguished and great lady passed
away in Medina in 62 AD during Yazid's regime when she was 84 years
old. She was buried in the Baqi' cemetery. She was the last
surviving woman among the Prophet's (SAW) wives or the 'Mothers of
the Faithful'.
Translated by Ms. Sareh Yadegari |